Daily around the world the headlines are filled with stories about domestic violence. The victims as well as their abusers are men and women of every age, race, religion and culture. No one is exempt from the effect domestic violence has on society. Way to many victims don’t get help and end up losing their life at the hands of their abuser.
In July 2004, the death of Lori Hacking in Salt Lake City, Utah was the first time I realized how fortunate I truly was. Lori’s disappearance was very suspicious and her husband, Mark Hacking was charged with her murder. As I followed the story in the local news I could see similar behaviors or control and deception in my X. I didn’t know Lori or her family, but my heart ached for them.
Sometimes those closest to the victims don’t see the signs or they may dismiss the signs because they believe their loved one is happy. This appears to be the case in the recent stabbing death of Tawnee Bairdm a 21 year old women by her 22 year old girlfriend. In coverage of the story on ABC 4 Utah stated, “Since the beginning of the year Utah has seen 18 deaths involving domestic violence. That’s compared to 16 all of last year.? One death is too many. This upward trend needs to stop.
Each report of domestic violence breaks my heart. Some get out, others return to their abusers and then their are those who don’t get out alive. If you believe someone is in an abusive relationship please follow the advise posted on KSL.com on October 3, 2014 by Martha B. Fallisin. In her article 5 ways to respond to victims of domestic violence, she writes, “If you are in a position of witnessing or hearing about domestic violence, here are some ways to react to help protect the victim.” She goes on to list information under each of the following:
- “Is someone hurting you?”
- “I believe you.”
- “It’s not your fault.”
- “What can I do for you? How can I help you?”
- “Do you have any resources?”
Martha B. Fallisi concludes the article by stating, “If you suspect someone you know is being abused or is abusing their partner and you don’t know how to talk to them about it, you can talk with a domestic violence professional before you talk to your friend. Call 211 to find a professional in your area. They will be happy to help you. No one deserves to be abused.”
I agree, no one deserves to be abused and one death is too many! Please help bring awareness to Domestic Violence by sharing what you learn with others.
As with each blog I write. I want to acknowledge that everyone has his or her own journey. Our experiences may be similar but they are each unique. Even though many people could have been at the same event each person experiences and remembers those events through our own eyes. Each of us may experience of the same event but we will recall the event differently. My blogs will be from my perspective of my life I am a daughter, sister, wife, mother and friend. I am not a Doctor, Counselor or Therapist. I believe it is important to work with Doctors, Counselors and Therapist along with Essential Oils, Energy Healing and spirituality to find health, healing and balance.